They say that life can change in a matter of minutes, I believe that. This past weekend was one of wonder, in the beginning it was not one of pleasurable wonder but a rather painful but as I ponder I think that lives can change, whether for the bad or good, in a matter of minutes. Mind you the situation was in the making for months, and as for the red flags well I completely bypassed them because I wanted what I wanted and all I could see was my desires and not the truth that was staring me in the face from the beginning.
Hearing truth is hard, but I think only for those who hold on tightly to what they want. Having to let go, despite your own desires is a painful thing. In this situation I had to let go because the truth was so blatant, so raw, so real and true that there was no other way. I do wish things would be different, and in my favor but for one wishing for something isn’t helping anyone (in fact it likely only keeps you in denial!) and two you have to see things for what they are and accept that things won’t change. Once you do both of those two things then you are in a better position to make a decision and/or just move onward.
I did some wondering. I wondered what life would be like if things were different and in my favor. Would I be happier? Would I be satisfied? I don’t really know. But even so, wondering the ‘what if’s’ can’t do anything but help to keep me dwelling in something that is and has past. After I did the wondering, I decided to live in the present and accept what is and what has past, and to live for me.
We can’t change the way people think and feel about us or how they decided to treat us, whether positive or negative, but we can change how we receive (and if we receive) the negatives from other people. We can decide not to dwell on the emotionally negatives, but to accept what is (even when negative) and change how we move forward.
By no means do I write that all of this is easy, and to each his or her own, but all things are possible. And the fact that there is possibility in the midst of difficulty, makes it all the more reason to take the opportunity.